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Good new, bad news

GNP.

The alternative to hard decisions is disaster.

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The good news is you do not have to make hard decisions. The bad news there are always consequences from every decision.

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Dear Son

The health of our home has consequences

The health of our home has consequences.

It sounds obvious, but it’s our job to manage our health.

Neglect one area, the other four suffer.

Enhance one area, the other four benefit.

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Dear Son

Organize your thoughts jeff, or get buried

Seat Sushi store front photo
The group goes out to dinner every Wednesday at 6pm. i arrived at 8pm, after not hearing anything.

 

Organize your thoughts jeff, or get buried.

Three nights ago, i had a parental meltdown.

Long story short.

Our 15-year old didn’t communicate and didn’t respond to my communications.

Compound this by a ripple effect of four other reliable communication options leading to dead ends.

i did not know where my son was and drove to the place they were supposed to be.

Nothing.

Rather than be cool, calm, and collected, i choose to reveal my anger and disappointment. i raised my voice, used profanity, got in his face.

When a parent doesn’t know where their child is and has no way of finding out, it’s the worst feeling in the world.

In no uncertain terms, this can never happen again.

Ever.

To make this point stick his options were:

Smash your iPhone 5 with this hammer, or no YuGiOh tournaments for a month.

The goal was to create a memory he will never forget.

And reinforce that no matter which consequence he picks, it would be a drop in the bucket compared to the consequences if it ever happens again.

i am not mad at him.

i’m embarrassed by my actions, but ok with them because i was intentional.

i take responsibility for never being more clear.

And i take solace now that there is no longer any lack of clarity.

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On April Fool’s Day 2009, jeff noel began writing five daily, differently-themed blogs (on five different sites). It was to be a 100-day self-imposed “writer’s bootcamp”, in preparation for writing his first book. He hasn’t missed a single day since.

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Carving Out A Life

The long way is the short cut

West Orange High School Student Guidance office
Yesterday at 8:00am.

 

We parked at 6:50am for an 8:00am first-come-first-served process for ninth-grade registration. This process is for any student who wasn’t already in the Orange County School system as an 8th grader.

We were first, checked in, got a nice seat together and then painfully watched as the next several families were turned away because they hadn’t properly organized the needed materials.

It was quite an effort to pull it all together. It becomes even more work when short cuts are intentional or unintentional.

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Carving Out A Life

And there is no escaping from the ripple effects of that

Disneyland Jungle Cruise attraction
Read the sign above… there is no escaping the need to be organized

 

No escaping the need to be organized.

We don’t have to be decently organized.

And there is no escaping from the ripple effects of that.

They just keep getting bigger (and worse).

It may take a wake up call or extraordinary discomfort to simplify.

Only one person grants permission for the choice to go or not go.

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